God works in crazy ways

So after I spoke with Antonia last, and berated her for being in a relationship with a man who dimmed her soul, killed her artistry and ruined all that made her "beautiful", she went back with the guy. I thought she was out of her fucking mind. How can anyone stay in a relationship with someone that dims their creativity?

Antonia's major pet peeve in all relationships has been "honesty" and "loyalty". While I never cheated on the girl, maybe my honesty was sometimes too much. (And as I read this zodiac shit, I am the classic Aquarius man, and she's the classic Cancer woman, and when you read the "romantic compatibility" between the two signs, you can see why we didn't work out - once again, I don't believe in this shit unless God created it, but it's interesting/fun)

So a week after she sent me the text saying "I'm back with my boyfriend. goodbye", she texted me asking "When was the last time we were in a relationship?"

I responded "About a year and half ago ( early June 2009)"

Her response shocked me. She said "I just got a blood test and it came up positive for HSV 1 and 2".

Now before I get accused of airing dirty laundry on an online blog, the end result was that it was a lab mix up. She wound up getting re-tested twice, and both times coming up negative. But at this point, I didn't know this.

I actually got worried for a second, but slowly started to question her finger being pointed at me. First off, we hadn't touched in over a year and a half. Second, I had a test done for STDs in July 2009 and all things were negative. I understand sometimes Herpes takes 6 months to generate, so when she said her current boyfriend didn't have HSV, and I was the only other person she was sexually active with, it scared me for a second.

But the more I grilled her, she soon realized: She had been tested with her boyfriend in January 2010, and neither one of them had anything. That would have been 7 months since me and her had any sexual or oral contact. So that would disqualify me.

So I gave her the only other conclusion. She had no other sexual relations. I said "uh, dude. Your man is cheating on you. Unless there is a lab mix up, your man is cheating on you. I would grill the shit out of him if I were you."

I also tried cheering the girl up. She was convinced her life was over. Even though anyone who's got Herpes 1 and 2, it probably sucks, I had to convince her shit would be fine. It's not the end of life, really. I couldn't think of many benefits of having it, in fact, I could think of none, so i focused more on convincing her that this was all a big mistake.

Over the next few days, while she awaited the results of the re-test, she grilled her ex. He automatically started crying, and then said "Shit! I need to get tested!" It seemed an extremely odd response for somebody that was supposedly "faithful". If I had a girlfriend for over a year, and she said "I have herpes", I would accuse her of cheating on me. Wouldn't that make sense? There would be no other possible way.

He tried maintaining that she touched a toilet seat or furniture, but I reminded her that the virus doesn't live forever on furniture it makes contact with, and that excuse didn't work for him.

After that, he didn't talk to her for 2 days. Eventually she called his dad, and he wound up finding the truth: her boyfriend had cheated on her, having unprotected sex with a one-night stand.

So she finally found out the truth, and had an undeniable reason to permanently end a relationship with this scumbag: he was a liar and a cheater.

THEN, the results came up negative. So not only did she have no STDs (it was a lab mix-up), but she found out the truth from her lying boyfriend: he was a cheater.

This girl had lost faith in God, and it was awesome to see it restored. How often do these mixups happen? And how often do they reveal some hidden revelation? And how often do they happen in a relationship where a girl needs a reason to stay out?

Of course, he was pissed. He threatened to sue her for "witholding information" and I told her "Uh remember he had unprotected sex and put you at risk for STDs, so I don't know what the hell he's talking about".

In the end, it's awesome to see God work in crazy ways. This is the story of God directly speaking to this girl telling her to stay the hell away from this man. You don't get many second chances like this.

As for me and her, I have concluded that we are only effective as friends. I care about the girl, as evidenced by the time I spent on the phone trying to keep her chin up over the scenario (and honestly, anyone I've ever cared about, I always try cheering up when shit's going wrong). I guess she expected me to say "ewww herpes!" and run away. But I wouldn't do that even if the tests were positive.

I also got tested the next day and thank God, all results came up negative. Even though I had no reason to suspect having an STD, I figured safer than sorry.

But I guess there are signs sometimes that God sends us, that we can either ignore, or listen to/and follow. For now, she made the smart choice and chose to follow these signs. Hopefully she won't go back to this guy. Just for her own soul. Just for the souls of others. She's an artist, and she let that fire dim to become what this man wanted her to be.

As for us, I think I can finally add permanent closure to any chance of a "relationship". As I said earlier, I'm too strong of an Aquarius, and she's too strong of a Cancer. And if all that zodiac stuff is bullshit, then she needs a dude that's overly attentive and affectionate, and I just can't do that. That shit makes me sick.

In conclusion, it must suck to be the other end of that "lab result". Just imagine being told "You don't have herpes!" and then finding out your lab result was mixed up and in reality you have both HSV 1 and 2! THAT MUST SUCK!!!!